mahout and the temple elephant

HAVE you heard the story of the mahout and the temple elephant?

In a little town in Kerala, there was a temple elephant. Everyday, the elephant would be taken out for a stroll through the busy bazaar streets. As it walked along, the elephant would do as it pleased. It would reach out with its trunk for a bunch of bananas hanging in front of a store, and before the hapless shopkeeper could react, the bananas would be inside the elephant’s mouth.

Or it would grab a coconut from the woman selling coconuts on the road, and crunch it in its mouth like a walnut. The mahout would try and stop the elephant from doing all of this, but to no avail. The elephant would just do as it pleased. The mahout even tried beating the elephant with his stick, but the elephant wouldn’t listen. The bananas and the coconuts were just too tempting to resist.

And then one day, the clever mahout had an idea. As the elephant was leaving the temple gates for his evening walk, the mahout held his stick out for the elephant to hold with his trunk. The elephant obediently took the mahout’s stick and curled his trunk around it.

Now as it walked through the busy bazaar street, the elephant longingly eyed the bananas but since it had the stick in the trunk, it left the bananas alone. To grab the bananas, it would have to the stick – and that would mean offending the mahout. So the elephant held on to the stick that the mahout had given it – and walked through the street, without disturbing the merchandise in the shops. And the shopkeepers were delighted and they often handed over gifts to the mahout – for the elephant.

“We are all a bit like the elephant. As we go through our lives, we get distracted by the temptations ”

If you think about it, we are all a bit like the elephant. As we go through our lives, we get distracted by the temptations around us. And even though our mahouts – our parents and our teachers - tell us not to get distracted, we continue doing it all. We spend time watching television shows, sleeping the extra hour and chatting non-stop. What we really need is that stick to hold. And that stick is usually a goal – a purpose – that excites us and keeps us on track. Once you have a goal, you suddenly find yourself focused. Like an elephant’s trunk, our minds wander too. We need something to keep it focused. We need that stick!

Have you ever been told “Don’t do that” when you were doing something you shouldn’t be doing? And remember how you still went ahead and did it? Problem is we need something to do. So the best way to stop a person from doing something he shouldn’t be doing is to give him something good to do. Don’t want to watch too much TV? Get yourself a good book to read. Don’t want to eat another pack of those chips? Eat a fruit. Don’t want to become a couch potato? Start running.

Most of our problems in life start when we don’t have anything meaningful to do. Having no goals means not having to work towards achieving them. Not having a hobby or a passion means spending long hours idling away. And that old saying is still true. An idle mind is indeed a devil’s workshop.

So starting today, get yourself a goal, a purpose that drives you to action. That’s not all. Play a sport, indulge a passion, spend time on a hobby – but don’t just sit there doing nothing. Unlike the temple elephant, not all of us are lucky enough to find a mahout who gives us that stick to hold. But we all need that stick. That goal!

Plans don't work out Most of the times-My share of cribbing and crying

Its true that plans don't work out for most of the time .I was supposed to step out of the room and do some work which i have been planning to do for long time .I have to appear for an interview and It is raining heavily. I know there is no connection between the two . But for me , It is an issue. I have been out of job for almost 5.5 months . Oh my god, It seems its been ages. No money , there is no friend circle. Two Weeks before, I appeared for an interview for company M Technologies. Everything went well , I had telehonic round with their CEO too. I was sure that i was selected ,but there was no response for two weeks . Suddenly ,I got call from them saying that they liked me a lot technically .But the req was frozen .Well ,first of all they were humble enough that they informed me , most of the companies dont do it. But the fact is that their apology doesnt fetch me a job.

Last week I appeared for two interviews , Both of them went well. I got call from one of them saying that i had cleared technical round . Its been a week still no response . Sometimes ,Hanged state is the worst kind of state

Walking the new path

World is a big stage show. Some of people among us are heroes/heroines.Some of them are observers , yes who feel and observe things and ask what is going around me ?I come in the observer category.

Sometimes i think am i supposed to report all these observations somewhere. Blogs are good way to write whatever you observed.

Think Creative ,Think new. Sounds great to our ears but the fact is that new thinking/new things are unacceptable . Change is the most undesirable thing in our minds.We want things which are convenient to us. Result oriented thinking, Actually does it help ? No i guess.when you want to reach some where are going to talk about the destination you will talk about the ways to reach there. It will help you .

Which one is the shortest , which one is longest ? this is going to help .When you focus too much on the goal , you will lose the pleasure to enjoy the path.We are supposed to adjust our paths according to the atmosphere. If it is raining , Buy an umbrella. So adjust your paths according to hindrances you face.

and I have turned into a preacher at this age. What will i do when i will be sixty. Oooooh La La..... Oooooh La La.....

Wish of the Day : I need a lot of positive feelings to do good things.Hope someone is not waiting to screw my head..Seriously women around me....Stop screwing my head. Puhleeez.....

Preaching on blogging doesn't pay.I seriously need to get a job to afford a better life

Thinking around me

As George Carlin says People are Boring, yes they are.Sometimes I hate my preachy attitude . But what to do . My ears cant take all the shit , which they speak.

Oh come on some one tell them that you are ruining your beautiful life by comparing it with others . Everyone is too scared to fail. Who made failure a big deal ? sm1 else's success should inspire you , it should not make you to point out mistakes in them. Urgggg....

After all this pressure,most of the individuals start getting into relationships. One relationship leads to another , because you chose it as escape route. Women , they get mad in relationship , may be because of overemphasis on romance concept.Even i am woman , I usually get scared to go into relationship because of how woman in my surroundings behave . over expectations, May be they give a lot and the one who gives, will always demand . Is it wrong to expect from your partner . Why do they need to track where is he and several doubts on individuals . The answer lies in somewhere in our inner insecurities. All of us have some loneliness in our hearts , I guess this loneliness drives world. We reach out for other people to mitigate that inner loneliness.

He is not the answer to your inner loneliness .

Life will move on even without him , that's biggest truth.We can live without anybody/believe me anybody. What is the definition of love ? Love is i guess when we find ourselves beautiful in someone else's eyes. Media commercialized love for their own benefits. Love is a feeling not an expectation. Where there is a ego

, Love goes breathless. Love should breath . Love is the base of this universe. People forgot it and they started giving emphasis on the other subject named as Expectation + comparison.

I expected this , i got this. He expected this, He got that . Oh My God!! how can you be so partial . Sometimes It is difficult to make people understand . Especially the ones who are actually very near to you. there was so much noise of expectations and comparison that my voice fell flat ..

My whole life till now is against those unhealthy comparisons and expectations . Sometimes I feel psychologically tortured . When people think in such way . Screwed thinking . What's the way to progress? Make fool of others. then be prepared as someone else might be waiting for you to make fool of you.

Whats the god's greatest gift ? We can love anybody and everybody. Just be grateful for what you have. It was meant to be this way.

When am i going to learn pottery? I don't know, But in this lifetime . When am i going to learn singing and dancing? Of course i can sing well ...But need to learn it ......Save me from the world who got scared .....No intentions of being known as loser or something ;)

Seeing what you want to see

Sometimes Life becomes too tough to handle ,You greed for a perfect life somewhere in your back of mind. Psychology pretty much works like Mirror of Erised as shown in Harry Potter(philosopher's stone). You see whats actually is not present . You really want to see it ,as they are desires of your heart.

time@office

Time@office: This blog goes for those for whom it is hard to spend time in their offices. We humans are monitored and controlled. Believe it or not but it is true, this could be true in any form .I mean your spouse could be controlling you or it could be your parents and in most of the cases it is ourselves which control ourselves. Our parents and our upbringing is sitting right there in our minds, which controls us . Don’t do this, This doesn’t look good. Don’t wear this, this is not looking decent. Every time you go for shopping your mother from your brain will scream ah this is looking too bright or this is too expensive.
Coming back to my main point Will we ever get time to do what we like? Probably never .This life is controlled by your bosses .you can’t fall ill on project-deadline day, But if you are unfortunate enough to you fall ill on any project-deadline day you will have to reach office at any cost either by taking painkiller or paracetamol . By chance if you are from nearby town living here in pg or rented accommodation, you will try not to fall ill on main week-days that is Tuesday to Thursday. You will try your best to fall ill on Monday or Friday, So that you can rest in your home town and get some attention there. But if you fell ill on Tuesday … I am not sure how much the disease will harm you but you will be almost killed by hunger, because as usual in our pgs there is nothing to eat. My Pg reminds me of Women-Jail. I have been living in these kinds of jails for past three plus years.
By now I have proved that our shopping and illnesses are controlled and that means we are never free. We are pre-occupied with everything. Same box can’t be used for measuring everyone‘s capabilities . Your controllers always want to put you in box in which already their favorite was sitting. When Your Boss aka Manager will always try to put or compare you in box in which his favorite sits comfortably. Look at him he is sending mails at 1 in night . But sir I don’t belong that box . For me work is measure for funding my life , but work is not my life .
This generation will work properly if you don’t put them into pre settled forms and notions . It is not about me , it is about my entire generation . We all are different , don’t evaluate us in fields in which someone else excels . Let us be what we want to be . So that I should not be blogging at office hours .
See you again
S